Jill Ethier

All that MATTERS is what’s NEXT

You are likely experiencing one of three things right now:

  1. Your life is AMAZING and you have everything you want it but…. (you fill in the blank).
  2. Your life is really good in all areas but you want it to be really GREAT and you aren’t sure how to get from good to great (click here for help to bridge the gap).
  3. You are thriving in one or two parts of your life (like your business, your relationships, your health and well-being or your personal growth and self-discovery) and the others are failing miserably or not where you want them to be.

So, which is it? Are you 1, 2 or 3? or a bit of a combo?

Right here, right now, ALL that matters is “What’s NEXT?”.

What is the next step, the next action, the next thing you have to do change it, and to create a shift and to go after what it is you truly want in that particular area(s) of your life.

What you may be wanting to do right now is one of these things:

  • Blame someone else for where you are at.
  • Say you don’t have enough time to change or you’ve already tried.
  • Give up on the dream and the desire of how you want it to be and just resolve yourself to the fact that this is the life you were dealt or it’s good enough.

OR…

You could CHOOSE to drop all of the stories of blame and realize that you chose your way to this state and that’s okay.

You could admit that you didn’t really go ALL IN, you just tried a little harder than you had before and you could actually GO ALL in this time.

You could realize that this is your LIFE and you can create whatever you TRULY WANT.

So, what’s next for you?

Will you continue to blame, moan and complain or will you go ALL IN, take the next necessary required ACTION and realize that you are COMPLETELY CAPABLE of creating whatever it is you truly want and you ALWAYS have a CHOICE.

It doesn’t matter about your past successes or failures, your past choices, or where you are right now, all that matters is what you DECIDE TO DO NEXT.

Create and LIVE the LIFE you TRULY WANT.

Live Powerfully, Do YOU!

Jill Ethier, Your Energetic Ninja with a BComm

Why I believe KNOWING your PURPOSE matters

So, I get asked a LOT about how to determine what your purpose is. While I believe that the purpose in life is really to grow daily, for me that means living based on the call of my soul.

Purpose is a combination of of who I am, what I truly want and my reason why.

A little (okay a lot but it’s important) back story:

Rewind about 20 years…I followed my passion for business and got a business degree with a major in marketing and finance. Corporate jobs with lots of responsibility and big budgets followed. I loved it. LOVED IT! I was a strategist machine and got off on working huge days. During that time, I had one child and then a divorce. Brief interruption with a major surgery (should have listened to the signs…they are always there) and then a new marriage and relocation.

Life took over and continued too…purpose…what was that and why was it important? Wasn’t I living my purpose? Hmmmmmmm.

Then, my second daughter died during delivery. Full stop. Quit my corporate career that day in the hospital and haven’t put on a suit since.

That was my first big wake up call and I thought long and hard about what mattered most…

My family.

I began to hear the call of my soul once again and it wasn’t to be a marketing strategist for big business (I even turned down my “dream” job (VP of Strategic Development) because it was no longer my dream).

Then, I had two more babies. I began a personal growth consulting business on the side while was raising three kids with a husband who was away most of the time…

My purpose once again got lost a little along the way and the consulting business became more of a hobby than a daily focus that is for sure with all of the daily to-dos of raising the girls and keeping the household running (those tasks became the priority and I worked late into the night while the girls were sleeping).

Fast forward a few years, I got sick. Really sick. I tried to recover for about a year using different modalities and then I found myself in the ER having a hard time breathing, having a massive food reaction and realizing that something was really going on that needed to be addressed by a Functional Medicine Doctor.

Diagnosis: Severe adrenal fatigue…worst stage possible.

Treatment: Take a year off of my life. Doc told me to keep the kids alive and that was it. Verbatim. Word for word. My mouth gaped open but I was too tired and sick to even argue.

During that time of copious amounts of supplements (like up to 60 a day), the vast percentage of my day laying on the couch, bio and neurofeedback to retrain my stress response, yoga, meditation, salt baths daily….etc etc…there was a lot of reading and self reflection that happened.

This (determining my purpose) was what my doctor considered to be the MOST important part of the protocol and it required me to revisit what I thought my purpose was, what my priorities on a daily basis had been and what they should be and decide what I TRULY WANTED for my life as ME. Not as a wife, mother, friend, daughter, …. you get the idea.

Stunned silence for quite a few weeks…I didn’t really KNOW my purpose anymore. I had become a shadow version of the person I was once with that dream of who I would become. My life looked nothing like I would have imagined it to be. What did I TRULY WANT?

I began to have a vague idea of what my purpose maybe looked like but I was still exhausted and how could I find the time. The daily work with the kids had consumed me and was it really possible to live based on my purpose with all of my other responsibilities….I was about to find out.

Here’s why: the doctor said (he had a lot to say as you can tell) I can get your body healthy in 1-2 years but if you don’t adjust your life to live based on YOUR purpose, I will see you again in five years.

My response: Oh HELL NO!

Love him but don’t ever want to sit in that office again except to tell him how much he changed my life.

So, I got quiet and really defined my purpose based on what I wanted and my reason why. And, as I got healthier and off the couch more, I began to spend more and more of each day living based on it. I made it a priority to live based on my purpose and the call of my soul on a daily basis (and this work and experience takes up the vast majority of each day…the daily tasks don’t consume my life anymore. They get done but they aren’t the most SIGNIFICANT actions that I take).

That brings us to today and where you come in:

I want to share what I have learned and discovered along my journey so, I have developed a system and a structure to determine your purpose, live more based on your purpose and create the life you truly want. (Basically all the stuff I have been posting about if you have been following me for awhile). And, I am embarking on a journey to share all of that with you in a much bigger way. Some of it (the beginning steps) already reside on my website and there is more to come.

Before you do anything else, you must FIRST assess how MUCH you are living based on your purpose right now.

So, because I love a good assessment (that is the strategist in me), I created one for you, click here to start your assessment. This is a life changer. You will understand more about where you are at and where you need to go based on what you score means.
Don’t be me. Don’t waste any more of your time, energy and effort.

And if you are tired, worn out, a little lost or just want more, this is a MUST for YOU. Your body, your mind and your spirit is telling you to make a shift and change what you are currently doing.

Use this as the first step. Take the assessment on how much you are living based on your purpose now. Click here.

Love and appreciate you.

You are the reason why I get to fulfill my purpose and live my days out doing what I love.

Remember, I am a PM, email or comment away with anything you need and even closer over in Life MAKERS (my private FB group).

Live the life you want, DO YOU!

Jill Ethier, Your Energetic Ninja with a BComm

 

Fear and discomfort…they will STOP YOU every time if you let them.

Is there something in your life RIGHT NOW that you want but don’t have?

It could be in your relationship with your partner, your kids, your family or your friends.

It could be in your profession or your business.
It could be with your health and well-being.

Why don’t you have it? 

Usually it comes down to one of two things: fear and discomfort.

Fear that you can’t do it, it won’t work or you aren’t capable of accomplishing it.

Discomfort from being outside your zone of comfort or because you are in a situation that you don’t want in one of these areas.

What can you do about? 

Decide what you want.
Make a strategy.
Take action. 

The only way to shift your reality, is to do something different.

So, where in your life are you feeling fearful or experiencing discomfort. Write it down. Then, write down all of the possible solutions. Pick the one that feels the best. Take the first step.

When you DO THIS, your fear and discomfort will start to recede BECAUSE your personal power, energy and capacity will start to increase.

The two latest episodes of Ninja Jill KNOWS delve deeper into fear and discomfort. Subscribe to iTunes to listen to both here OR click on the link to each episode:

Episode 34: You will likely have to do it scared
Episode 35: What are you most uncomfortable with right now? 

Go after what you TRULY WANT. That’s what this life is all about.

If you are really READY to take action but need a new strategy to achieve what you WANT, click here.

Live POWERfully, do YOU.

Jill (your Energetic Ninja with a BComm)

A Life ANALYSIS should be done regularly!

Why your life needs a strategy and some analysis too…

I used to spend hours analyzing business strategy and processes for the companies that I worked in and consulted for. I LOVED it. Nothing like some numbers, deep thinking and creating strategy to get the blood pumping.

What’s fascinating though is this…in all of those years that I worked in corporate, never once in that time did I do a LIFE ANALYSIS. I didn’t crunch the numbers of my life (besides the budget), I didn’t spend time really thinking about the outcomes that I wanted and I didn’t create a methodical process and procedure to live the LIFE I WANT. I did it for a business but not for me.

I knew I wasn’t where I wanted to be but I didn’t take the time to really figure out what I truly wanted, my reason why and then how I was going to get there.

I didn’t apply my resources (time, energy, effort and money) to my life in the same way that I would plan something for a business.

I knew what I wanted but I didn’t have a strategy or plan to get there.

(Hint: I sure as hell do it now though. And my life has radically changed because of it.)

Time for a little LIFE ANALYSIS. Answer these questions truthfully (no one needs to know but you):

1. Are you where you want to be in your relationships with your partner, children, family and friends?
2. Are you where you want to be in your career or business?
3. Are you making the money that you want so that you can have the things that you want and the financial foundation that you desire?
4. Are you physically healthy and fit? Do you have enough energy to tackle your day? Do you have the body that you want?
5. Are you living based on your purpose (meaning are the majority of your daily actions fulfilling your purpose)?

If you answered no or kind of to any of these questions, here is what you do next:

  • Grab a pen and paper and on the left hand side right down the area of your life that you are not where you want to be at yet.
  • Next to that, write what you TRULY WANT (not a pie in the sky dream or keeping up with the Jone’s desire but what you want and feels right to you).
  • Next to that, write down the first 3 steps you must take to make it happen. Don’t make them huge leaps, make them significant steps towards what you truly want.
  • And finally, write down what amount of time, energy, effort and money you need to begin to take action.

That is your first step to creating a strategy for your life.

You stated and analyzed your current position,
you know what your goal and outcome is that you want and
you are beginning to outline what you must do to get there.

Now, it’s up to you.

Only you can take action to get what you want in your life.

If you need help, if you would like some support and a structure and framework to do this and if you need some accountability, the “Who do I need to BECOME” online program may be a perfect fit for you. It is 4-weeks of emails, videos and audios along with support in a private FB group, a $97 investment in you and a structure and strategy with specific tools and techniques like this so that you can begin to live the life you want. Click here to learn more and to sign up to shift the trajectory of your life.

Here is a couple of the latest podcasts for your listening pleasure and some motivation:
Episode 32: You always have a CHOICE

Episode 29: Did our grandparents hustle or just do the work?

Click on the episode to listen or to hear all of the episodes subscribe to Ninja Jill KNOWS on iTunes by clicking here.

You can’t get to where you are going by not first knowing where you are at.

Complete the LIFE ANALYSIS and then start TAKING ACTION to LIVE the LIFE you TRULY WANT.

Live POWERfully, do YOU!

Jill (your Energetic Ninja with a BComm)

Do you ALWAYS have a CHOICE?

I know that your most immediate answer is more than likely no but the real answer is….YES.

ALWAYS yes. There is always a choice.

You just may not like the outcome of choice but you always have a choice. You can choose not to take the action that you don’t like but that is still a choice.

The moment you ACCEPT this (that there is always a choice)…

You will STOP being a victim.

The circumstance will cease to drain your PERSONAL POWER and

you will STRENGTHEN your mindset.

There is ALWAYS a choice. 

Choose to LIVE the LIFE you TRULY WANT.

This short video shows the moment that I realized that I still did have a choice…click here to watch and to dive a little deeper into why there is always a choice, listen to this podcast episode of Ninja Jill KNOWS.

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