This was one of the best pieces of advice that I got from my Functional Medicine doctor when I was at my sickest with adrenal fatigue.
“Only speak when absolutely necessary. And say so little that people notice that you aren’t talking.”
I’m not a big ‘talker’ anyways. I don’t do idle chitchat, I don’t give lengthy speeches to my kids when they are in trouble and I don’t love talking on the phone or to people I don’t know well.
I do like conversations full of value, inspired thoughts and ones that are funny though.
I stopped talking. So much that people asked me why I wasn’t saying anything.
Here’s what I learned:
1. We talk way to much. We fill silences with words that don’t need to said and spaces that don’t need to be filled.
2. We justify our decisions with too many words.
3. Talking expends a lot of energy. Be careful how much of it you are wasting with too many words.
4. Silence is golden and very powerful. I found that I was heard MORE by my kids, my husband, and my clients when I said less.
Try it.
Go a little silent.
See how much more importance you put on the words you select when you speak less.
When you speak less, you hear more.
You hear all of the words but more importantly, you hear what isn’t said, you feel the emotions and you understand on a deeper level.
Get quiet. Your conversations will get deeper when you do.
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